As a Death Doula and Grief-Informed Specialist, I consciously choose to support people through difficult periods of life — and I am willing to go into these deep waters with you.
During our sessions, I am fully present with your experience. I witness your emotions, your states, your process — and I carefully hold space for all of it. At the same time, I remain grounded, attentive, and supportive, allowing everything that arises to be lived through gently and safely. This is deep work. Not physically demanding — but emotionally profound. That is why, within this work, I also take care of myself. I support myself so that you don’t have to worry about me during our sessions. I can hold this space. As a Death Doula and Grief-Informed Specialist, I am also a participant in the project “Mortally Important” and a member of the Death Doula Registry.
As a Loss Doula and Grief-Informed Specialist, I can work with:
• grief, loss, and the process of mourning
• fear of death
• rituals and life transitions
• exploring and deepening your relationship with death
• the process of dying
• memory projects
• grief projects
• creating end-of-life and farewell scenarios
• digital legacy
• conversations and reflections on life and death
Below, I want to share the kinds of losses and emotional states that I have personally lived through. I have gone through them, endured them, grown within them, and strengthened my faith, maturity, and resilience. Today, this gives me the inner resource to support others.
Among all these experiences, there is one type of loss I feel especially called to work with — the loss of a business. As someone who has lost a business three times, I know how deeply this experience is often misunderstood. For many, it may seem like simply stopping an activity. But in reality, it is the loss of many layers of life at once — a loss of structure, identity, meaning, direction… a loss of a part of yourself. It is also a loss of ambition, of dreams that were once alive. This kind of loss carries profound weight.
It is like losing a child you gave birth, nurtured, grown and lost. It is so sad to often hear the phrase: “I only want to hear about success stories.” I personally have so often disagreed and still disagree with these words spoken above by so many people and behind my back as well. I have been thinking for several years about how to make room for such a loss and finally, now, I have such an opportunity. First — to allow myself to be heard. And second — to create a space where others can speak freely, openly, and without judgment about their own experiences of loss.
Below is a list of losses and emotional states that I have personally gone through.
• loss of a business
• loss of a job
• not being accepted as a person at work
• harassment and attempted sexual assault in childhood and adolescence
• feelings of loneliness and isolation
• suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts
• lack of love
• divorce
• a car accident
• ongoing envy directed toward me
• fear of speaking in front of others, stuttering
• betrayal and abusive relationships lasting 9 years
• depression
• panic attacks at night
• loss of self-belief
• fear for my child’s life when she was a newborn
• fear of being judged or ridiculed
• 7 years of deep inner struggle
• loss of a business, and the grief of seeing others have what I lost
• emigration
• ridicule and devaluation
• miscarriage
• loss of a pet
• being told that I was “grieving too long” over my business loss
• loss of reputation
• loss of all material stability
• “social death” — complete silence on social media for two years
• loss of my social circle, except for my mother, sister and daughter
• experiences of sexing and boundary violations
• threats, including threats to my life
• the long process of rebuilding myself
• loss of meaning, including loss of faith — and finding it again
• deep fear for my daughter
Below is a list of losses, experiences, and questions you are welcome to bring into our work together. This list is not complete — it cannot include every form of loss that exists.
You are always welcome to describe your situation in your own words.
• abortion (past or currently considering it)
• pregnancy
• fears related to death, identity, or “being in between worlds”
• sick pet
• I'm afraid of death anniversaries/memorial days
• war is nearby, everyone is dying,
• where to find strength, how to support a loved one in grief
• How can I honor someone who has passed away?
• People tell me I’ve been grieving for too long
• I need to talk openly about death
• I need spiritual support
• I need support during the transition period (I’m not looking for psychotherapy)
• I’ve been diagnosed with an illness
• My loved one is missing / in captivity
• My child is ill
• Violent death of a loved one
• I don’t want to live after losing someone close to me
• Unprocessed grief
• I need a death doula to support the dying process
• I need a doula to help with a farewell ritual / preparation
• I feel despair because of the palliative care system
• Preparing for the death of a loved one
• Loss of a sense of safety
• Pregnancy loss at any stage
• Loss of faith or trust
• Loss of the ability to be yourself (including due to laws in your country)
• Loss of money / financial stability
• Loss of friendship
• Leaving an abusive relationship
• Loss of appearance or body
• Loss of parents while they are still alive (due to illness, differing views, etc.)
• Loss of self / loss of identity
• Loss of meaning in life
• Divorce or separation
• Parenthood (loss of previous lifestyle, body, freedom, etc.)
• Suicide of a loved one or acquaintance
• Death of a child
• Creating a grief project
• Support in the dying process / funeral according to your religious tradition
• Aging (your own or that of loved ones)
• Fear of hospitals, surgery, medication, doctors, or the medical system
• Fear of death
• A loved one has an incurable illness
• Death of a loved one (regardless of when it happened)
• Loss of a pet
• A loved one is dying
• Caregiver exhaustion
• I want to organize a meaningful / “dream” funeral
• I want to prepare a legacy project
• I want to imagine something different (a different way of relating to death, grief, or something hopeful within pain)
• I want to honor someone’s memory
• I feel guilty after losing someone
• Emigration
• I am still grieving
• I feel anger towards the deceased
• I am unable to have children
P.S. I would also add:
• loss of a business
• loss of home
• loss of physical abilities (partially or fully), including the ability to work
• loss of a job (dismissal, redundancy, etc.)
• difficulty coping with ridicule, harassment, or bullying (toward yourself, a loved one, or your child)
• experiences of sexual harassment or assault
• things that are often left unspoken — your story